The nature of sexual fantasies is varied; they tend to push the limits of a person's usual thoughts while also allowing for the exploration of what one desires. Not to be embarrassed by, these fantasies remain deeply embedded in the mind.
Almost all males (98%) surveyed in a study conducted by Justin Lehmiller, PhD, researcher at the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University, stated that they have fantasies. Sex Therapists similarly report that fantasizing does not necessarily imply a lack of contentment with one's partner.
Dr. Lehmiller surveyed over 4,000 U.S. adults about sexual fantasies for his book. Research and testimonies from sex therapists suggest six such scenarios occur more regularly than others. Gender of the partner being the only exception, these fantasies are shared amongst gay, straight and bisexual individuals. In this article, we discuss the most common sexual fantasies men have and offer tips to bring the fantasy to reality in the bedroom.
1. His Companion Pursues Him and Assumes Control
Receiving a reprieve from your everyday life is what fantasizing is all about. You may find that letting your partner dictate the intimate encounters for the night - especially if you usually take the lead in your relationship - provides a much needed variation to your usual routine. "Entrusting oneself sexually is a means of expressing that 'I request you to be the one in charge. I desire to submit to you'", emphasizes Dan Lacovara, a licensed marriage and family therapist for the Center for Healthy Sex in Washington, DC.
To get your partner to consider this form of role reversal or any other fantasy you may have, determine how close you are with them. According to Andrew Smiler, author of Dating and Sex and a sex therapist based in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, “At the second-date level, there’s less fear of rejection as one hasn't invested much time or effort into the person. But if you're with a long-term partner, it's a different situation as one has more to potentially lose, though they may also have a better idea of how to bring up the topic.”
2. Could More Be Merrier? A Threesome
Many individuals, regardless of sexual orientations, fantasize about having multiple partners. Contrary to common perceptions, threesomes are not always motivated by selfish desires; for many men, the concept of their partner being pleasured by someone else is arousing.You can try to use your sex doll torso as your third -person combination and enjoy a new experience of climax without burden and risks.
Arranging a ménage à trois with your companion could be more difficult than some other commonly shared fantasies. Per Lacovara, “Jealousy and lack of security may arise,” (aside from needing to find someone else to join in) “as for some, sex is a private experience intended for only two people, and they may not be comfortable with that being brought into question.”
However, if you have someone willing to join you in experimenting, you both might find that the activities of the third participant are extremely stimulating and provide ideas for new experiences. "It's an opportunity to gain knowledge," he noted.
3. Submission: He's Restrained, Stimulated, and Punished
This fantasy genre involves a kinkier approach to sexual submission. Lehmiller finds that non-heterosexual men frequently have more BDSM-related fantasies than their heterosexual peers. This is likely due to such men having faced social rejection for already being "non-normative", allowing them to feel less fear around exploring their sexuality.
If discussing this with a partner, be aware that apprehension may arise around causing harm. "Involving pain in sexual activities can be uncomfortable for some", says Lacovara. To help allay worries, establish a predetermined keyword or phrase to end the activity without reproof.
4. Exhibitionistic Behavior: Sexual Activity in a Public Space
This type of fantasy aligns with the taboo category. “Exhibitionism is often arousing because it is forbidden,” Lacovara explains. “Not only on a physical level, but also on a chemical one. Dopamine is released when engaging with this type of fantasy, providing a sense of pleasure.”
If you and your partner are considering exhibitionism, Lacovara suggests starting slowly. It's not unusual for people to be hesitant about being seen having sex, so firstly ask if your partner is open to this fantasy. If they're onboard, you could begin with something less overt like having sex in front of a window at home instead of a city park. Compromise and communication are key.
5. Command: Blend of Pleasure and Agony
Smiler suggests that BDSM, power control, rough sex, and even choking have seen an increase in popularity among fantasies as they have in porn. According to him, "Rough sex is a flavor some men want now and then, not necessarily in the long run. It could be that in a person's fantasies, they can permit themselves to express desires they would usually keep controlled in life."
Exploring BDSM activities, such as spanking, tying up, or pegging, can be an exciting and enjoyable experience, but it is important to ensure that there is open and honest communication between partners before giving it a go. "Make it clear that you want to talk about the topic and that it may be complicated," Lacovara suggests. "Partners need to have frank conversations about sexuality and create a safe space in which to do this.”
6. Role-Play: Trying Out New Identities
No matter the fantasy - be it a cowboy, a construction worker, or a butler - it is all considered cosplay. According to Lacovara, role-playing serves as an interactive and creative form of sex that encourages a new narrative.Of course, we have a lots luxurious and high -quality cosplay sex doll torso to recommend it to you, so that you can enjoy the accompaniment of perfect fantasy partners all the time.
According to Lacovara, this type of fantasy has a low-risk of becoming reality, and can even be humorous if it doesn't work out. The only potential concern is the cost of necessary costumes.
