What is Anal Masturbation?
Anal masturbation is a self-stimulating practice involving the manipulation of the anus and rectum. Techniques may entail manual stimulation, introduction of sex doll torso toys such as anal beads, butt plugs, dildos, vibrators, or prostate massagers, or use of enemas.
Gaining Insight into Anal Masturbation
Dr Megan Fleming is a renowned global speaker, clinical psychologist, and sex and relationships guru. Drawing on 15+ years of clinical know-how and a blend of neuroscience research and theory, Dr Megan aids couples in creating healthy, loving relationships.
Dr Justin Lehmiller, is an award winning social psychologist, research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, and author of books such as 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life' and 'The Psychology of Human Sexuality'. He has published extensively in top journals on sex and relationships, authored two textbooks, plus produces the well-known blog, Sex & Psychology.
The two experts in this episode explore the topic of anal masturbation, discussing why to do it, how to do it, and which toys are best to help you take your solo anal play to the next level. Understandably, a lot of people might feel a strong reaction upon hearing the word "anal," regardless of whether it's partnered or solo play. However, any time can be a great time to experience your pleasure.
I strongly uphold experiential knowing as the standard for authentic understanding. Social taboos have sustained conditioned beliefs regarding pleasure, limitations, and what is and isn't acceptable in the realm of sexuality.
If you've yet to try anal play, you may want to consider it. While it may not be the right fit, it could lead to a unique orgasm: the pudendal nerve in the pelvic region is the same nerve that brings pleasure during clitoris, vulva, penis, and perineum stimulation, so an anal orgasm is possible.
Before engaging in solo anal play, it is important to take steps to ensure adequate hygiene -- empty bowels and clean externally with an antimicrobial soap. Additionally, consider trimming or using a finger cot (a finger-sized condom) to protect against any potential cuts.
Best Position for Anal Masturbation
Position yourself comfortably; consider starting with your knees tucked into your chest, and use a pillow or wedge beneath your pelvis for improved access. Alternately, assume a four-point position and reach behind yourself. It is paramount to only engage in anal massage or any other anal play when you are extremely aroused; arousal should be heightened with traditional solo play prior to commencing anal masturbation.
Begin with your index or middle finger and massage your anal opening and inner rim. Tense up your PC muscles (Kegels) and your buttocks, then slowly insert your lubricated finger. Take a few seconds to relax before pushing it in a bit more. Clitoral/penile stimulation with the opposite hand can provide extra pleasure. Remember that using a finger/toy from anal play on the vulva or clitoris can cause infections.
Anal toys provide an excellent way of exploring pleasure because they can reach internal locations hard to access with fingers. To ensure safety, toys inserted into the anus should have a flared or flanged base, as otherwise they can slip inside the rectum when muscles contract during orgasm. Always clean toys before and after use, with water and soap for non-porous toys (like silicone or stainless steel metal) and no vibration. Lovehoney's Fresh Toy Cleaner is a great option for simplicity and is safe for all materials.
As you explore G-spot and P-spot stimulation during anal play, remember that "practice makes perfect". If your experience wasn't painful (in which case you should stop) and you only had an unremarkable response (which is ok!), I suggest trying multiple times to see if your comfort level increases and you gain new pleasure from the activity.
